“You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” –Mary Morrissey
I recently had the good fortune to have dinner with Daymond John, an incredibly successful entrepreneur, founder of FUBU and star of ABC’s Shark Tank.
We spoke on the same stage earlier that day, and during his talk he said with absolute conviction that being decisive was the number one skill that all successful entrepreneurs have in common.
I 100% agree, and have seen time and time again that the inability to make a choice and move ahead is what keeps many business owners stuck.
Indecision can show up as many things, including procrastination, laziness and self-created obstacles.
What you have to remember is that it’s either a hell yes or a hell no.
There’s no hell maybe!
Make a decision, and know that you can always change course later. You’ll still be miles ahead of the masses who remain stuck.
If you struggle with this, the first step is to notice where this is happening for you. Where are you using delay tactics? Where are you waffling and being wishy-washy? Are you taking six months to decide on a tagline or website colors, and in the meantime complaining you’re not making money or getting clients?
Successful people take decisive action. They don’t waffle.
It’s been said that “how you do anything is how you do everything.” If you’re doing this in your life, you are likely doing it in your business too, and vice versa.
Ask yourself, where in your life are you not committing? Where are you letting yourself down?
Make fast decisions, course correct as you go, and keep moving.
Here’s a helpful decision-making process I learned from someone wise years ago, who emphasized that you can still make savvy decisions while also tapping into your intuition.
- Does this decision fit with my goals? (Long term and short term)
- Does it make logical sense? (The “head” part)
- Does it feel good? (The “heart” part)
- What’s the fear vs. excitement ratio? (Does this excite me more than it scares me?)
- Am I making this decision from faith or fear? (Notice where you’re operating from fear and making decisions rooted in fear)
When you don’t get a yes answer for all of these, then the answer is no.
It can be scary, but you are opening up the space and taking advantage of a great opportunity if it is a yes–even if you don’t know HOW you are going to do it.
I’ve come a long way with this and am now much more decisive, but when I catch myself hesitating and waffling…
“What if it’s wrong?” What if they say THIS?” “What if she thinks that?”
“This is crazy scary.”
I just go through this process and check in with my gut.
If it’s truly a yes I say to myself:
“I’m doing it anyway. I’m doing it anyway. I’m doing it anyway.”
And you can too.